Face-to-face or Online?
There are different forms of counselling including face-to-face, telephone (via Skype) and ‘online’ – text, chat, email or ProReal*– all of which offer the same basic principles of confidentiality and impartiality. The form of counselling chosen will depend upon several factors but it is most important to select the one which feels most comfortable. Perhaps you are comfortable working with computers and prefer the anonymity working this way offers or, maybe, you live some distance away. Perhaps you prefer to meet face to face.
*ProReal is an avatar-based, virtual-world software platform which helps people communicate by accelerating insight and change.
What can I talk about?
Whatever ‘problem’ (some prefer to call them ‘issues’) you may have it is usually good to discuss it with someone else. Often the mere fact of telling someone else about something which is disturbing can help us feel better about it. That is an important part of the counselling process but there is more to it than just that. A very important aspect is confidentiality. With a few exceptions, about which you will be informed, whatever you say in the counselling room will not be disclosed to anyone else.
As a Person-Centred Counsellor I believe that we each have the facility to resolve those issues which we consider to be adversely influencing our sense of well-being. I aim to provide clients with a safe environment in which they can explore their thoughts and feelings and so gain a greater understanding of the reasons for such feelings and become aware of the choices available to them. Some may wish to gain a greater understanding of themself in order to enhance their personal development and self-awareness.
Will I be given advice?
Counsellors do not give advice. If you choose to become a client you will be offered ‘unconditional positive regard’. Everything that you say will be considered very carefully. Together, through the establishment of a non-judgemental and empathic therapeutic relationship, we will explore how conditioning, perceived ideals, life experiences and the consequent feelings, beliefs, behaviours and attitudes may be influencing the ‘here and now’. Your statements and beliefs may be gently questioned and challenged to assist you gain a greater understanding of them. You will gain greater self-awareness and consequently appreciate the choices available to you and discover your own solutions .
All this will be done in a supportive way in an atmosphere where words like ‘should’, ‘ought’, ‘must’ and ‘got to’ have no relevance.
It may be painful to relive an experience or recall memories but sometimes it is necessary in order to gain a greater understanding.. Once we become aware of what it is that is disturbing us we can begin to resolve it. We begin to appreciate that we have a choice – a choice to either remain as we are and think as we do or, to change. The decision as to what to do with the increased self-awareness is entirely up to the individual.
There is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way of being. We merely need to act in ’our own best interest’. Counselling may help you discover what it is that you could do to achieve that. With desire and intent change is possible.
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